HONESTY... IS IT IMPORTANT?

So there is a question! Is honesty important in life or is it being rude? How do know when is the right time to be honest? Sometimes it feels like lying is a regular part of being polite or is it? I still sometimes deal with being honest, even though I am a pretty out spoken person, but there are times, I have to sugar coat the truth to make it sound less harsh or direct. And in truth I just don't care sugar coating. My first change came years ago, when I learned to come out as is, and not every time people get that, well that was not a part of my problem. It is still a bit hard sometimes, especially when people assume whatever they want about you and force you to be a part of their imagination or assumption. I learned the hard way in life and that was to - say what you have been asked and have the facts to back up your theory, not necassarily with rudeness but truth can also be told calmly. Few months back, we had a part-timer who just got introduced on his first day at work and we were all gathered up chit chatting on a slow work day, and few days later he came up to me and said "Out of everyone I have met in my life, you are the first real deal", for few seconds I thought he was trying to hit on me but as he went on explaining I realized he is talking about my attitude in life and being as honest as I can. Well it was a good feeling to be admired but that didn't put me on cloud nine, the reason being, I am not here to be admired for my attitude because even that could become an act of being fake, it felt good because it was recognized instead of being misunderstood. And I know and have friends to whom my honesty is very well understood and so is their's.  But the question still remains, how can you be honest almost every second of your life? Honesty could come very easy in heated up arguments or opinionated conversations but how do you bring it out in little situations, sometimes I feel like it's not needed but then people just don't get it. Few weeks back, I signed up for this newsletter and in collaboration I started getting more newsletters in my inbox and this time it was religious occasion announcements. I am not a religious person at all, and for me this was not relevant. So I emailed them regarding the religious newsletters crowding my inbox and I would like to unsubscribe them but I had to sugar coat it nicely but to my surprise I was bombarded with more newsletters until I had to send them an email yet one more time, explaining them my rights and confirming with them about my non religious views. It's the harsh truth but at this point it didn't seem my problem, it was their's for creating an illusionary thought of everyone being on the same page. In our every day lives, we are met with such situations where, we already know the truth about someone but aren't able to come out with it. Well we really don't have to walk around like a radar but what happens when it's confronted to you, what do you do then? Just stay diplomatic or just come out with the truth and be done with it? Language customs are full of these kinds of insulators. The truth, in very many cases, is just too brutal or embarassing to state as a fact, so we add in little fictions. I feel it's the society of "Pass the sugar please?" It's the feeling of, you coat me and I will double coat the icing on you... Well not in my corner of the world, but that has also taught me the truth of my flaws and the acceptance of learning through other people's honesty or strength. So to make it fair, I have flaws too. But I have never stopped learning. We are humans and are met with pretty much the same experiences if not now then later. And I believe being honest doesnt necesarily mean being rude. Just come out with it, even if you risk an argument!! I know sometimes it's hard in the little things because it could end up hurting somebody's feelings. Below is the list of my awkward moments.

Here is a list of things I heard people telling me but I prefered to be quite, because it was utter common sense and honesty wasn't required, but would honesty had been the right idea? My responses in my mind. 

PERSON 1: I didn't realize business will be hard.

ME: So what did you think, It was all going to be handy dandy. And you would be making money over night.

PERSON 2: Why is everyone goofing around at work. And why isn't anyone listening to the manager?

ME: Because your butt never shows up to see when things are done, and you never see the manager goofing around. So how will it will work out.

PERSON 3: Do I look fat?

ME: No! It's the mirror.

PERSON 4: Why are all my employees quitting, I am a good Boss..

ME: Why you asking me that question, ask yourself!!

PERSON 5: I am a huge Karma believer, I am not sure why these things happen to me?

ME: Then why are you a karma believer!! It's all cause and effect law. You must have screwed up somewhere!

PERSON 6: If we don't eat meat, the animal population will increase to devastating numbers.

ME: What about the human population increasing, what's the solution for that!

PERSON 7: I am so upset the way my boyfriend treats me and deals with me.

ME: So why are you still with him. Dump him!!

PERSON 8: You know I hate the president. I have never voted in my life.

ME: So why don't you start voting and stop bitching.

PERSON 9: I am so tired today, I don't sleep till late. I love lounging in my bed on my days off. I have big dreams but I don't know why they are not working out fast.

ME: Why don't you google the discipline behind successful people, and take your lazy butt to bed early and get off it early as well and set your priorities straight.

PERSON 10: I am so depressed, I don't know what to do. I just sit around waiting for it to go away. Do you think that's the right thing to do?

ME: Why don't you get an appointment with a shrink and start figuring out your issues. And if that's not the option( for financial reasons) then find the source for it. If sitting around would fix depression, then the pharmacies would be out of business.